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Your friend may get upset if you tell them the sky is blue. Or you may have a family member whose feathers are never ruffled. You do not know how your Safe To Say - Sick To Death feels, and even if you did, it is not what they need to hear. No two people are the same. No Its My Life - Various - Sonic System losses are the same.
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Though many people find comfort in the belief their loved one is in a better place, immediately following a loss is not always the right time to say it. After losing my dad I heard this all the time and I remember Safe To Say - Sick To Death , he is supposed to be here —there is no better place. Realistically, things probably will get easier. But when someone is in the unimaginably deep, dark hole of grief, they just want you to acknowledge the pain.
Sometimes life just sucks. Comments like these take away from the importance of the child and the loss. Not only this, it may make the parent feel guilty about devaluing their other children.
A griever thinks: I just lost the person I planned to spend the rest of my life with. I am still in love. Again, projecting into the future is useless. When someone is acutely grieving they may be experiencing symptoms very similar to depression, and depressed people often have a hard time imagining a future where things are better. Living a good, long life does not diminish the pain of the loss.
Share memories, reminisce about their life, but do not imply that it should make this loss easier. Why would God make us suffer? This can be the case even for people who have extremely deep faith. So, better safe than sorry — steer clear. How do you know?
Easy for you to say. I want to cry. I need to cry. We all grieve in our own way — some people will cry. A lot. There is no right or wrong way, and however someone is grieving they should feel supported to cry as much as they want to, and not feel they are being judged for it. You do not need to exacerbate it with the pressure of containing their emotions. Another important note is that crying in front of children is not a bad thing. Children will take their cues from adults regarding when and how they can grieve the loss.
Hiding emotions can be confusing for children and may make them feel like they have to do the same. I am in the worst pain imaginable, why are you talking to me about someone else? This is not a time for comparisons. A griever thinks: My cat is not disposable or replaceable. Do not underestimate pet loss. They may get another animal, they may not. Either way, wait for them to decide. Watch their kids, organize people to collect funds for burial costs, pre-pay and have a couple of pizzas sent over to their house.
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Just a mere five weeks after my brother took his life, I made the mistake of hosting a birthday party for my mother-in-law just as I do every year. I was still in shock and disbelief and was not really in the right frame of mind to host a party and rather than listen to my gut and cancel the party, I listened to my head instead — terrible idea! My insensitive and boorish brother-in-law was the absolute worst he has ever been and I have never been treated so badly by anyone in my entire life.
He then starts on his stump speech about how there is no God, there are no miracles, and then bashes Christianity and Christians. He picked fights with me all afternoon and nobody said a word. Guess who was the bad guy? If this scene had been filmed in a foreign language, one would think my SIL was the one that had lost her brother! There was no excuse for their outrageous behavior as this couple tragically lost their teenage son about 25 years in a car accident so they know firsthand about sudden, unexpected and traumatic loss.
The horrible people will never be allowed near me again! Reading these comments it is so easy to see why people avoid those who have suffered a dreadful loss. It is impossible to know what to say. Some want words, others want hugs, others want to be left alone. There is a dreadful fear of saying or doing the wrong thing, causing more pain. I have friends and relatives who have Held It - The Julie Dolphin - Lit unspeakably awful losses.
I am paralysed by their grief, frightened by it. I cried reading these comments. Death is such a common and yet unique event. Her eyes stated the meaning of the comment. It happens. Everybody grieves differently.
Yes people come and go all the time BUT at some point in our lives we have to grieve. We all need to grieve. No one should be judged or put down for how they grieve. Let them grieve for as long as it needs to be done. With death, only time will heal the wounds left behind. What do i do. My brother took Safe To Say - Sick To Death own life in March We went Its All Too Much - The Beatles - Yellow Submarine the store and my dad sayed we have to return these my wife died of cancer the young lady Safe To Say - Sick To Death ok have a nice day never mind saying so sorry for your loss what a bitch.
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I thought it was presumptuous and insensitive to tell me how sure she was that I felt a certain way. I also know the post loss irrational feelings of guilt, I fight that battle most nights. Yesterday, I went to the Safe To Say - Sick To Death of a friend I had not kept up with closely.
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He also expressed feelings that others were blaming him or not wanting him there at the funeral. As a nurse, the desire to provide comfort was strong. What I ended up doing is telling him that his feelings were valid, that I was glad that he would not be alone in the months to come he said a family member would be with himand that grief counseling would be a great benefit to him. I told him that memories will keep him alive, and that living is the best tribute you could give to someone you truly loved that has gone before you.
I told him he needed to talk when he was ready, and to never ever let anyone tell him when it is time to stop having these feelings.
I pray I said the right things. The fact is that I know I will not be there for him and so there was no way I would promise that. But I wanted him to get help and to survive, he has the tools but he must use them.
Jenny, I thoroughly believe you said not only the right things, but the perfect things. What you told that man is something that I feel is actually fitting for many grieving people to hear, whether it is a child, a parent, a frienda spouse, etc. I lost my 13 yr old son due to diabetic complications 5 days after my birthday, almost 6 wks ago.
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